In our Muslim country at most of the masajid here, when I go for prayer I see some women who enter the masjid after they take off their shoes in front of men. Also when they make wudu’ the fold their sleeves up and uncover apart of their lower legs and stand beside men for wudu’. What should I do? Shall I pray at home and stop going to the masjid? Especially that we are young men and have strong desires.
Praise be to Allaah.
Attending prayers in congregation with the Muslims is obligatory, as we have stated in many answers. See no. 8918 and 120. You should strive to pray in congregation in a mosque in which the call to prayer is given and you should try to do wudoo’ in your house or place of work. If you have to do wudoo’ in the mosque, then you should lower your gaze and try to keep away from places where women are, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them”
We also advise believing women to fear Allaah with regard to coming to the mosque. They should realize that they are coming to a place that is one of the noblest places on earth to perform an act of worship that is one of the greatest acts of worship. So it is not befitting for them to disobey their Lord by uncovering that which He has commanded them to cover, and it is not right for her to crowd with men in the place where they do wudoo’. If they cannot find a place to do wudoo’ then they should pray in their homes and that is better for them and brings a greater reward, as it says in Sunan Abi Dawood (570) and elsewhere. It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A woman’s prayer in her house is better than her prayer in her courtyard, and her prayer in her cabinet is better than her prayer in her courtyard.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. Continue reading