His parents want to separate, and each of them wants him to be on their side

My parents are in the moment of getting divorced through court. My mothers statement in the court contains lies according to my father. As well as my father’s statement in the court contains nothing but lies according to my mother. Now my mother wants my help to tell my father to stop spreading fitnah, and my father wants my help too to say the same thing to my mother. As a son, I can’t pick a team. I know that my mother is not 100% to be blamed for her statement and neither my father. but Allah knows best. I don’t like the way they both getting divorced by neglecting the way that Allah and His Messenger SAW already prescribed in the Quran and Sunnah. I have tired many times to give them advice, showing them the truth but nothing as the result. Can you please give this son some advice on what he can do as a muslim son in this situation and to help him get rid of the feeling of being helpless.

Praise be to Allaah.

Honouring one’s parents is a duty that is enjoined on children, and disobeying them is something that is definitively forbidden. Allah, may He be blessed and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.’

Your Lord knows best what is in your inner-selves. If you are righteous, then, verily, He is Ever Most Forgiving to those who turn unto Him again and again in obedience, and in repentance”

[al-Isra’ 17:23-25]. Continue reading

Should he obey his parents and marry someone who is not religiously committed?

My parents got me two matches for marriage where as i am nervous whether they are suitable for me or not. I am religious person offering salah five times and follow sunnah. My choice was Aalim girl but my family semi religious they dont want this girl to be our family member becoz they feel she will dominate us. What are the questions should i ask to girl when i meet her along with family members? I dont have property and i am against to dowry. Kindly help in this regards. In my past i made lot of sins where as i feel guilty and repent should i disclose with her and be true with her?
My second question is everyday i feel so scared about Allah punishment i am unable to live happily. Sometimes i feel grave and cry like anything. I am feeling stressed however i am asking forgiveness from allah. But due to this i am unable to be happy.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

The Prophet’s advice to anyone who wants to get married is to choose a woman who is religiously committed, who will help him with regard to his affairs in this world and in the Hereafter. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said, encouraging marriage to one who is religiously committed: “Women may be married for four things: their wealth, their lineage, their beauty and their religious commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5090; Muslim, 1466.   Continue reading

Their parents made bequests before they died stating that the estate was to be divided in a specific manner; do they have to follow that?

Our mother died last year but we didnt distribute the wealth as we wanted to keep everything for our farther as he might need it in future because no body knows about the time.
on 6th of Dull Hijjah our father passed away.
our mother wanted her jewelries to be distribute among her daughters (as we are three sisters and one brother)the house our brother is the nominee.
now we want to know how to distribute every thing according to Islam our according to our parents wish.our main aim is we do not want to do anything that either we or our parents will be accountable in front of Allah.

Praise be to Allaah.

If your father and mother did not share out their estates when they were still alive, such that each person took his share and disposed of it, then what they said is regarded as a bequest (wasiyyah) and a bequest to an heir is not to be executed except with the permission of the other heirs.  Continue reading

She died and left behind a husband, children and parents who are not Muslim

My wife died leaving me [the husband]a girl and 2 boys.She also has 3sister which 1 of them is a christian,2brothers 1 is also a christian,and a father and mother who also are not muslims.
How do I share her wealth,what is the ratio i am to use in calculating each share to be allotted to the beneficiary.

Praise be to Allaah.

If the wife was Muslim, no one can inherit from her except her Muslim heirs, because of the reports narrated by al-Bukhaari (6764) and Muslim (1614) from Usaamah ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him), according to which the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A Muslim cannot inherit from a kaafir and a kaafir cannot inherit from a Muslim.”

Shaykh al-Islam [Ibn Taymiyah] (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The Muslims are unanimously agreed that a kaafir cannot inherit from a Muslim and a kaafir man cannot marry a Muslim woman. End quote from al-Fataawa al-Kubra (3/130).  Continue reading

Division of parents’ estate between sons and daughters

Parental property is to be divide between 4 brother & one sister . What be the share of each one as shariat.

Praise be to Allaah.

If one parent has died, or both parents, and they have no heirs except four sons and one daughter, then the estate should be divided on the basis that each male takes the share of two females, i.e. the daughter will have one share and each of the sons will have two shares. So the estate should be divided into nine parts, of which the daughter will have one share and the eight remaining shares will be given to the four sons, each of them taking two shares. This should be done after taking out the expenses of preparing and shrouding the deceased, and paying off any dues he owed to Allaah or debts he owed to other people, and after fulfilling his bequests if he left any such instructions before he died.  Continue reading

Her parents are threatening to hit her if she covers her face

I am a moslam woman from XXX,I wear higab (cover my hear).
I belive that I have to cover my face but my mother and father think that higab is to cover my hear only I try my best to convince them but no use. my mother threaten me to hit if I ever mention it agin. I don’t know what to do I am in bad need for any advice.

Praise be to Allaah.

Know that wearing hijaab is a duty for women, and it is not optional. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“… and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e., their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.)…” [al-Noor 24:31]

and:

“… and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance…” [al-Ahzaab 33:33]

Know that the complete hijaab which you are observing is something which is very good, so you should thank Allaah for it and ask Him to make you steadfast. Be steadfast and Allaah will strengthen your heart. Continue reading

Her parents refuse to let her wear niqaab because she is young

I am a 14-year-old girl. Studying in the second year in secondary school. I wear hejab that covers my entire body. My clothes are very baggy and I cover my neck and chest by my khimar. Nothing appears of my body apart from my face and hands, as explained by many scholars that face and hands are not ‘awra. There is disagreement amongst scholars regarding hejab, yet I try my best to cover more of my body. I have tried so many times to convince my parents to allow me to wear niqab, but they refuse saying that I am still very young and that I just reached the age of puberty two years ago. What shall I do? Shall I obey them and they will bear the sin before Allah, or shall I disobey them and insist on wearing niqab in order to be closer to Allah? If I insist on wearing it, this will cause many problems to me and they will be displeased with me. What shall I do?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

It is obligatory for a woman to cover her face before non-mahram men, according to the more correct of the two scholarly opinions, because of a great deal of evidence which we have quoted in the answer to question no. 11774Continue reading

He wants to put on kohl on Fridays and his parents don’t want him to do that

My parents dont want me to do Kuhl every friday. I do it because every friday is ‘ied and it is the Sunnah of our Beloved Messenger Mohammed SalAllah u ‘alaihi wa Selam.
What should I do, obey my parents or continue with making Kuhl on my eyes every friday?.

Praise be to Allaah.

It is not Sunnah to put on kohl on Fridays. It was not the practice of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) to put on kohl on this day in particular. Rather what is narrated in the Sunnah is that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) put on kohl and encouraged others to put on kohl because it is beneficial for the eyes, without restricting it to any particular day, whether Friday or any other day.  Continue reading

His parents are insisting that he makes his clothes long (isbaal)

I have heard and read a lot of hadeeth on wearing pants above the ankle. i do stick to this sunnah but what if your parents do not want you to do that.they get very angry at me and since that is also a very big sin (making parents angry) i get confused.Please tell me what decision should i take and keep in mind that later on when i inshallah do a job this dress up could affect my job oppurtunities as well.Also tell me when i should be listening to parents or following a sunnah because i find myself in similiar circumstances all the time. 

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

Isbaal means letting the clothes hang down below the ankles, which is haraam, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whatever of the izaar (lower garment) hangs down below the ankles is in the Fire.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5787)

If someone were to say, “I do not let my garment (or pants) hang down below the ankle out of pride, but because of habit or custom,”

Our response is:

That isbaal (letting the clothes hang down below the ankle) in and of itself is subject to the punishment of Fire. If pride and showing off are added to that isbaal, then the punishment is worse and more severe. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Isbaal may apply to the lower garment, shirt or turban. Whoever lets any part of them hang down in order to show off, Allaah will not look at him on the Day of Resurrection.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4085, and al-Nasaa’i, 5334, with a saheeh isnaad).  Continue reading

Giving the reward for dhikr to one’s parents

Can I say Subhaan-Allaah one hundred times or some other dhikr, praying that the reward for that will be give to my father and mother? My father has died and my mother is still alive.

Praise be to Allaah.

The scholars differed as to whether it is permissible to give reward to the dead and whether that reaches them. There are two views:

1 – That any righteous deed may be given to the dead and that (the reward) reaches them – such as reading Qur’aan, fasting, praying and other acts of worship.

2 – That no righteous deed reaches the dead except those for which there is evidence that it reaches them. This is the more correct view. The evidence for that is the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And that man can have nothing but what he does”

[al-Najm 53:39].  Continue reading