She became Muslim after having an illegitimate pregnancy aborted; will Allah forgive her and will she meet her child in Paradise?

A sister embraced islam after being raised as an athiest. at age 17 during her state of jahiliyya, she had an abortion and terminated her pregnancy, due to abuse and pressure on the part of her former partner. The termination took place approx 49weeks into pregnancy.
InshaaAllah, the sister has been forgiven by Allah SWT for this because she was not aware of Islam and had not been guided at this time.
The sister deeply regrets and feels saddened by this. She would like to know,from an islamic perspective what happened to that foetus, if it was considered a life at that stage or not, and on yeomal qiyyamah will there be any consequence for that action, any scenario which will occur. and if the sister is granted jannah, and we ask Allah to grant us all this honour, will she ever have a chance to have this child or will this be something which has been erased by Allah in this life and in the hereafter?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

Zina (fornication or adultery) is forbidden and is a crime according to all divinely revealed laws. It is abhorrent and is rejected by anyone with sound reasoning, even if he is not Muslim. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has criticised the one who does it in many verses and in many Prophetic hadeeths, and He has warned the one who does it of severe punishment in this world and in the Hereafter. For more information please see the answer to question no. 97884  Continue reading

A Christian woman is asking a Muslim woman for help in raising a Muslim girl

I’m in a little strange situation now and cannot say no to the person who is asking me for help. I’m a university student in the U.S. and meet this African American women who is a Christian, began talking to me and I felt the need to talk to her since she was going through a lot of issues and things that bothered her. I tried not getting to close to her, but she was unavoidable and I felt the need to be nice so I don’t make it seem that Muslims are mean, etc.
Her husband’s family she says are Muslims, I suppose they are, and did not judge. Her husband has two+ women who he has a relation with.One of the ladies he has a relation with has a 9 year old daughter.
This 9 year old child has attempted suicide and is really depressed and cares nothing about life.
The African American lady that I met at school told me she has taken it upon herself to try and care for this 9 year old daughter even though she is not her child. She wants to know the Islamic ruling on how to care for this child so that she doesn’t lose her parents’ faith.
I’m not sure how to go about this situation, especially since the women is of a different faith than the 9 year old child.
If you understood my situation well, can you provide me with advice on how to help the women help the child. The mother of this child seems to only tell her this and that is wrong in Islam and don’t do it. How is the best way to convince this child of the reality of life, etc. The child doesn’t have a close relationship with the parents and most likely is in a bad school setting, with bad friends, etc. I myself do not know the whole situation of the child but will know soon through the African American lady who asked for my help.

Praise be to Allaah.

If this woman is the mother of that girl it is not permissible for her – according to sharee‘ah – to have custody of her Muslim daughter, because a kaafir cannot be entrusted with raising a Muslim child in Islam; rather he will cause the child to follow his own religion. We have discussed this previously in the answer to question no. 21516. So how about if she is not even her daughter? Continue reading

Marrying an atheist woman who became Muslim, then apostacized

Can a Muslim man marry a former Muslim woman who is now a Christian? For example: An agnostic woman converts to Islam and after a couple weeks decides she has too many doubts to consider herself a Muslim and stops practicing. However, she later accepts Monotheistic Christianity (believing in one God and NOT believing in the trinity.) Is it permissible for a Muslim man to marry her as a Christian (Person of the Book), even though technically she is an apostate from Islam?.

Praise be to Allaah.

First:

It is permissible to marry women from among the People of the Book. Allah says (what means):

“And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you” (Quran 5:5)

Ibn Qudamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “There is no dispute between the people of knowledge, praise be to Allah, concerning the permissibility of marrying the free women from among the People of the Book. Of those from whom this is narrated are: ’Omar, ‘Othman, Talhah, Huthaifah, Salman, Jabir and others. Ibn al Munthir said: It is not correct that any of the earlier (scholars) prohibited this.” End quote, al-Mughni (7:500)

2. If a woman accepts Islam then apostates to the Jewish or Christian religion, she must be asked to repent; if she repents and returns to Islam, then all praise is for Allah, otherwise she is an apostate and all the rules which apply to apostates apply to her as agreed upon by the scholars (may Allah have mercy on them). See the answer to question 14231.

Therefore, it is necessary to advise this woman and remove any doubts, if she has doubts. This task should be undertaken by specialists from among the people of knowledge. If she insists on her apostasy, it is not lawful for a Muslim to marry her since marriage to an apostate is not valid by consensus. Continue reading

Being reckless with regard to zina on the grounds that the Muslim who commits sin will never stay in Hell for eternity

What is your response to the one who says that so long as the Muslim has an atom’s weight of faith in his heart, he will enter Paradise even if he commits zina during his lifetime?
What do you say to the wife who betrays her husband by committing the immoral act of zina for the sake of sexual pleasure?.

Praise be to Allaah.

The belief of Ahl as-Sunnah wa’l-Jamaa‘ah is that those who commit major sins are subject to the will of Allah. If Allah wills, He will punish them, and if He wills, He will forgive them, and if they are punished, they will not remain in Hell forever. This is what is indicated by the mutawaatir texts of the Qur’aan and Sunnah, such as the verse in which Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, Allah forgives not that partners should be set up with him in worship, but He forgives except that (anything else) to whom He pleases, and whoever sets up partners with Allah in worship, he has indeed invented a tremendous sin”

[an-Nisa’ 4:48].  Continue reading

The Muslim has to pay attention to good manners and modesty when he mixes with people

What is the ruling on deliberately passing wind loudly in front of people?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Undoubtedly feeling embarrassed with regard to things that people usually feel embarrassed about and try to avoid is something that is required, and paying attention to people’s customs and what they regard as good or bad is part of good manners; whatever people customarily regard as disliked is blameworthy, and whatever people customarily regard as offensive is offensive – so long as Islam does not teach anything to the contrary.

Al-Bukhaari (3484) narrated that Abu Mas‘ood (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Among the words of the earlier Prophets that still remain with people are: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.”

Al-Haafiz said: The words “then do as you wish” appear in the imperative (a command) but what is meant is a threat, i.e., do as you wish and Allah will requite you.

Or the meaning may be: look at what you want to do; if it is something that one not would feel ashamed of, then do it, but if it is something that one would feel ashamed of, then do not do it. End quote.  Continue reading

Asking the Muslim about the state of his heart and his faith

Is it permissible to ask the Muslims – when meeting with them – about the state of their faith or their hearts? One of them said to me that this is a matter of the unseen and that it is not appropriate to ask about it.

Praise be to Allaah.

What is prescribed for the Muslim is to encourage those he meets to adhere to the truth in word and deed, and to be patient in doing that and calling people to it, as Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“By Al-Asr (the time).

Verily! Man is in loss,

Except those who believe (in Islamic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth (i.e. order one another to perform all kinds of good deeds (Al-Maroof )which Allah has ordained, and abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds (Al-Munkar )which Allah has forbidden), and recommend one another to patience (for the sufferings, harms, and injuries which one may encounter in Allah’s Cause during preaching His religion of Islamic Monotheism or Jihad, etc.).”

[al-‘Asr 103:1-3].  Continue reading

A Christian woman married a Muslim without a wali (guardian); is her marriage valid?

I will apologize in advance for my lengthy questioning. I am a Christian woman who just recently married a Muslim man. Firstly after reading some of the info on your website I am questioning if we are actually married under Islamic law, as since I had no wali, the Imam who performed the nikah became my wali for the ceremony. We are speaking of divorce. He has moved out of my house, and I do not know where he is living. We only communicate via text messaging because he says he cannot control his emotions when talking over the phone. He never actually said I divorce you, but we told others that we were getting a divorce. I told him I don’t know how an Islamic divorce actually works, so I will handle the legal documents from the state, and he can handle the Islamic part, but I don’t think he even knows how to go about that. I should probably state that we have only been married for four months. I married him two weeks after he was released from prison, because he said that he could not live with me if we were not married. We had a previous relationship with several children involved before he went to prison and became a “practicing Muslim” I agreed to a lot of things in regards to Islam in our household, letting him teach the children about Islam, giving up a male friend that I had for numerous years before I knew him, no pork, no music, no alcohol, dressing conservatively, etc. I even agreed that once we could afford to, I would get my tubal ligation reversed, because he says it is against Islam for my tubes to be tied, (even though the surgery and a future pregnancy has the potential to cause me great harm). I never said that I would stop celebrating some holidays and he agreed. I never promised that I would convert either, but now this is a problem. He feels as though he cannot deal with me because I haven’t converted yet. I told him that I used to have a genuine interest in Islam, until he continuously “harassed me about it” I try to hold conversations with him, and he says unless it is about Islam, there is nothing to talk about. We are both not happy, but I don’t think that divorce is a good idea either. One major issue is that he feels as though I hate Islam, which I don’t, but I have said some not so nice things to him about Islam, because he constantly belittles me and is very condescending about my religion. Are we allowed to agree to disagree about our religious views? I also am very concerned that he is talking to women on Facebook, one who he has had a prior sexual relationship with, but he states that it is all innocent, he is only talking with them about Islam, but I was able to see messages where he asked several women if they were married or not, which I don’t feel is appropriate. He also made conversation with a woman from another country about flying her here to the US. How can he do this? He is not even taking care of me and our family. He has no money, or work, and I take care of us all, all 13 of us. A lot of things that he does and says seem to push me further away from Islam, because he seems so selfish and I feel like he uses Islam to excuse behaviors that I feel are inappropriate. We were once having relations in the bedroom, and we had not had intercourse yet, but he had already climaxed, so when we tried to have intercourse, because I hadn’t yet climaxed of course, he withdrew in the midst of it, got up, and said we’ll try later it’s time for prayer. I felt very hurt and ashamed, but he said he doesn’t have to justify anything to me. I thought Muslims were to treat their wives with kindness. He says that he can’t love me because I am not Muslim. Is this true? He also says that I am not allowed to talk to anyone about our marital problems, but what am I to do if I can’t even get him to talk to me about our problems? When I bring to his attention about facts in Islam, that he is not adhering to, he states that I am not a believer, and can’t tell him anything about Islam. I even told him some information that I learned from this website, that he also frequents, but he still says I have no right to question him, and that I am just fuel for the Hell-fire because obviously Allah has placed a veil over my heart. Please help.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

In order for the marriage to be valid, it is stipulated that the contract be done by the woman’s guardian.

The guardian of a Christian or Jewish woman is a male relative who is a follower of the same religion: her father, grandfather or brother… If there is no such relative or he refuses, then her marriage contract is to be done by the Muslim judge if there is one; if not, her marriage should be done by the director of the Islamic Centre in her locality, because the basic principle with regard to guardianship in the case of marriage is that it belongs to the father, then to male relatives, the closest then the next closest. If there are no male relatives or they are not qualified to be guardians for any reason, or if they refuse for no good reason, then guardianship passes to the ruler or one who takes his place.

Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 18/162  Continue reading

A new Muslim whose mother has a dog and she is asking about a number of rulings that have to do with tahaarah (purification)

Im a Muslim convert Alhamdulillah. My mother and my stepfather have a dog. My husband and I never eat anything they cook, neither do we drink water from their glasses. Also, if my mother wants to give us something we always ask her if she touched that thing with her wet hands, because we are afraid that the impurity may be transmited from her hands to that object.
Is it ok how we are acting or are we exaggerating? Are we allowed to eat from what she and her husband cook and use their vessels? Are we allowed to use their bathroom and wash our hands there and use their towels to get dry? Am I allowed to use a cloth that she wore before and she washed it in the washing machine or should I first clean that cloth using mud?
Also, if my mother and her husband come to visit us can they wash their hands in our bathroom, use our towels and eat and drink from our vessels, or would all these get contaminated by the impure saliva of their dog, after they touch them with their wet hands?

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

The najaasah (impurity) of the dog means that it is impure in and of itself. This has been discussed previously in the answers to questions no. 13356 and 69840.

If a person touches a dog and his hand is wet or the dog is wet, then his hand has become impure and he has to purify whatever has been touched by it of garments, vessels and so on. For information on how to purify it from the impurity of the dog, see the answer to questions no. 41090 and 46314Continue reading

Muslim woman whose kaafir family celebrate her birthday

My parents and two brothers are kufaar (they have no religion) and they insist on making a big deal on my birthday (by phoning me and e-mailing birthday messages and saying ‘happy birthday’) even though I told them many times before that I do not celebrate my birthday and that it is just another day like the other days.
(I am the only Muslim in my family and married to a Muslim and I live in another province in Canada away from them so they are not close to me). This year I unplugged the phone on that day so I could avoid the issue.
What should I do?

Praise be to Allaah.

We congratulate you on your steadfastness in Islam and your avoiding bid’ah and shirk. We ask Allaah to keep you steadfast and to admit you to His Paradise, for He is the All-hearing Who answers prayers.

Strive hard to avoid greetings on the celebrations of the mushrikeen, for this is a kind of resembling them and implies that one approves of their falsehood… It would be a good idea to tell your family why you do not respond to them, so that they will not keep trying to contact you (on that day). And ask Allaah to give you strength. May Allaah help you to do that which He loves and which will earn His pleasure.

And Allaah knows best. Continue reading

Her sister’s daughter is not Muslim and she is going to have a child without marriage; how should she interact with her?

My sister’s daughter is not Muslim and she is going to have a child but without marriage; she does not intend to get married. I have two daughters and I have decided to tell my sister’s daughter that I cannot remain in touch with her unless she gets married, because I cannot expose my two daughters to her way of life. I do not want my daughters to see their cousin having a child without being married. Personally, I do not know how I can approve of her having a child. In fact I do not know how I should interact with her when I know how she got pregnant with this child.
I hope that you can offer me some advice on how to deal with this situation.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

We appreciate your concern about this issue, which is indicative of a high level of piety, and your keenness to raise your daughters in chastity and purity. This is an obligation that Allah has enjoined upon fathers and mothers. It is important to pay more attention to that upbringing if the Muslim is living in a land of kufr or he is living in a Muslim land, but his family are kuffaar, because of what is involved in that of a great deal of corruption and a lack of helpers and supporters.  Continue reading