It is haraam for a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman in the Maaliki madhhab

I want to know in what reference it says that Imam Maalik forbade a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman. 
There is an opinion which says that there are four possible scenarios, and in only one is it regarded as haraam for a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman. These four scenarios are: when the one who is shaking hands does it for the sake of pleasure and finds pleasure in it; when he does it for the sake of pleasure but does not find pleasure in it; when he does not do it for the sake of pleasure but finds pleasure in it; and when he does not do it for the sake of pleasure and does not find pleasure in it.
Who is the author of this opinion? Does he belong to the Maaliki madhhab?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

In Mukhtasar al-Akhdari and other Maaliki books there is an indication that it is haraam to shake hands with a non-mahram woman according to the madhhab of Maalik (may Allah have mercy on him).

‘Aleesh said in Minah al-Jaleel Sharh Mukhtasar Khaleel (1/22): It is not permissible for a man to touch the face or hand of a non-mahram woman, and it is not permissible for them to put their hands together without a barrier. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) never accepted the oath of allegiance (bay‘ah) of a woman by holding her hand; he would accept women’s oath of allegiance verbally. According to another report: His hand never touched the hand of a woman; rather he would accept their oath of allegiance verbally. End quote. Continue reading

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Holding the vessel in the left hand and supporting it with the right hand when drinking

If your right hand is occupied when eating and you want to drink some water, is it permissible to hold the cup in your left hand and to support it with the right hand when drinking? How did the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) drink whilst eating?.

Praise be to Allaah.

It is proven in the Sunnah that we are instructed to eat and drink with the right hand, and we are forbidden to do that with the left hand. It was narrated from Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “When one of you eats, let him eat with his right hand, and when he drinks, let him drink with his right hand, for the shaytaan eats with his left hand and drinks with his left hand.”

Narrated by Muslim, 2020

It was narrated from Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do not eat with the left hand, for the Shaytaan eats with the left hand.”

Narrated by Muslim, 2019.

If a person needs to use both hands, there is nothing wrong with that because of the report which says that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) drank from a waterskin and a bucket, which usually needs both hands. Hence the scholars granted a concession allowing the use of both hands when necessary.

An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Our companions said: if he drinks with both hands cupped and has a ring of silver on his finger, there is nothing wrong with that.

End quote from al-Majmoo‘, 1/316

Al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his commentary on the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “except him who takes (thereof) in the hollow [ghurfatan] of his hand” [al-Baqarah 2:249]: Some of the commentators said: al-gharfah means in the hollow of one hand and al-ghurfah means in the hollow of both hands. And some commentators said that both mean the same thing.

‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Hands are the cleanest of vessels.

The one who wants to consume only that which is halaal nowadays with no doubts whatsoever should drink with his hands water from springs and rivers at any time of night or day.

End quote from Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 3/253, 254

If you carry the cup in both hands, you should mostly use the right hand with the support of the left, not the other way round, so that the left hand will not be the main one with the right hand following or supporting it.

And Allah knows best. Continue reading

If a person commits a sin for which he deserves to be cursed, can he repent? Is it possible for Allah to forgive him?

I was wondering what does it mean to be cursed by Allah as in is it a realm were a person is and it has sight,test,and touch to it were if a person is cursed that means that Allah puts a person in a world that is crazy and inane and hurts him and talks to him,our is it just a simple curse were its only a saying and thats all.
also i want to know if a person is cursed by Allah does that mean that he cant make it to heaven our be forgiving by Allah because he/she is cursed.
also i have a friend that lived an OK Muslim life he started fasting at 10 and stopped at 15 because he started hanging out with unbeliever that smoked weed and he later even had a beer,and later when he was in another town he smoked weed again,and later in the same town he got in a relationship with an unbeliever and had sex committing fornication/zina the relationahip lasted around 6mounths before he cut it off because his sister and mother told him that it was haram and evil so he said that he could not do it any more so he left and also left a gang life..i was wondering can this be forgiving by Allah and whats the punishment if not eternal.
also the same person started hearing voices and they said they were souls and start talking to Allah and Allah told him that he will be forgiving but sometimes the voice of Allah says he wont be forgiven and he see stuff that’s other people don’t is he cursed and if he is in this world that he is in can he be forgiven.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

Being cursed means being cast far away from goodness. And it was said that being cursed by Allah means being cast far away from Him, and being cursed by people means being reviled and prayed against by them. Everyone whom Allah has cursed is far away from His mercy and deserves punishment, so he is doomed.

End quote from Lisaan al-‘Arab, 13/387-388

The one who is cursed is either a kaafir, who is cast far away from the mercy of Allah, to the punishment of Allah, or he is a Muslim but he did an action for which he deserves to be cursed, such as drinking alcohol, consuming riba (usury), reviling his parents and other grave sins. This cursing only results from major sins, but that does not mean that he will abide in Hell for eternity, because if one who believes in Tawheed dies believing in Tawheed and as a Muslim, even if he enters Hell for sins he committed, he will not remain there for eternity. This is the view of Ahl as-Sunnah wa’l-Jamaa‘ah. Continue reading

Her mother is in love with her husband’s brother and she is the one who writes the love letters for her!

My family is religiously committed family, Alhamdulillah. But there is a major problem which is going through. My mother is very friendly with us and she used to tell us all her secrets. She tells us that she loves my uncle more than my father. Even though my uncle and his family lives in another country, he comes to this country every month for business purposes and stays in our house. My mother never talks to him directly as my father doesn’t like talking with non-mahram. but she sends mail , messages and even chat with him . She tells us that he loves her back. I am not quite sure whether my uncle loves her back or not. But he responds to her chats, mails and messages. My father knows that my mother loves his brother, he never says it openly but shows that he knows about it indirectly. My father even sometimes asks me whether my mother has any other email id apart from the one he knows and asks me the password of my mother’s mail id. But my mother has warned me not to tell such things. My father’s temper will rise when my uncle is at home and he will be angry with all of us. I have openly told my mother that such things are haram but she says that as far as she don’t talk to him directly its all fine. She asks me and my sisters to translate the love quotes for her and we used to do that as she is our mother. she also ask our assistance to chat with my uncle.
Because of all this, my love towards my mother is decreasing day by day. I sometimes won’t feel like listening to my mother even though my heart wants to obey her. Once, I told my mother that I want my parents to love each other and not any one else, I was crying as I could no more withstand this situation and there was an argument between me and my mother. My sister advised me not to express my views on this matter openly to my mother as it will hurt her feelings. She told me that, My mother had undergone alot of torture from my father and from his relatives (especially from the same uncle’s wife). She loved my father so much but he didn’t give her the same back, and even now, sometimes my father says some harsh words to my mother. she is very sensitive and all this may alter her state of consciousness , this love towards my uncle may be a relief for her from all this and will set her heart at peace. So I apologized to my mother and she forgave me. I used to pray to Allah to increase my love towards my mother and help me to obey her. I doubt that if the situation continues as such, it will create huge problems in our family.
1. Is what she is doing acceptable based on her situation?
2. If no, how can I make my mother understand the consequences she is going to face because of this in this life and in the hereafter, in such a way that it won’t hurt her feelings.
3. Is it harm for me to obey my mother in some matters where I doubt or I am sure that she uses it for the purpose of pleasing my uncle. If so, How can I tell her that I can’t do it.
4. As there was some argument and difference of opinion between me and my mother on this matter , how can I please her and acquire Allah’s love.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

All the individuals involved in this situation are wrong and are committing sin, and perhaps you have been the most wrong of all, for several reasons. You are the one who has been writing these sinful love letters for your mother; you have been concealing this from your father and have even lied to him, telling him that nothing is going on; you did not advise your uncle to refrain from doing haraam things, namely going against the teachings of his religion and betraying his brother. You did not confront your mother frankly and make her give up this foolish and haraam action – in fact you regarded her action and her justification for it as just an opinion, as opposed to your opinion that her action is not justified, when in fact the issue is one of whims and desires as opposed to a shar‘i ruling. You even tried to spare her feelings so that she would not be upset if you refused to do her bidding and write haraam letters to your uncle and correspond with him in her name.

All of that leads us to fear that you are the most sinful of all the individuals involved. You could have put a stop to this evil immediately, by confronting your mother and telling her frankly that what she is doing is haraam, that it is not permissible for her to carry on with it, that her justifications for it are not acceptable in terms of either sharee‘ah or reasoning, and that you would inform your father if she continued this sinful relationship with your uncle. You could also have put a stop to this evil by confronting your uncle with his evil deeds and telling him that a person like him could not be entrusted with people’s honour; by threatening him that if he continued this action, you would tell your father about what he is doing and you would prevent him from entering your house. You could also have put an end to this evil by telling your father about the details of the matter so that he could do what Allah has enjoined upon him of advising his family members. We do not advise you to tell your father unless your mother or your uncle persist in this sinful relationship between them. If they give up that relationship then there is no need to tell your father about it. But if they persist in it – or if one of them persists – then you do not have the option of remaining silent; rather you must – whilst also continuing to advise and exhort them – tell your father so that he can put a stop to this sinful relationship, even if that leads to him divorcing his wife or cutting off ties with his brother and banning him from entering his house. Continue reading

Ruling on reviling someone in secret

Is it permissible to revile someone, but in my own heart and secretly, in such a way that no one knows that I reviled So and so, such as if I said to myself, “O So and so, O …, Why did you do such and such to me?” Am I sinning if I do that?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Reviling and impugning may be either justifiable or unjustifiable.

Firstly:

If it is justifiable, such as if a Muslim is wronged in an obvious manner, or is harmed in a way that cannot be denied, then there is nothing wrong with warding off harm and enmity from oneself by reviling and impugning, whether that is done secretly or openly, without transgressing or overstepping the mark, although it is better not to do that.

Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Allaah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public except by him who has been wronged. And Allaah is Ever All‑Hearer, All‑Knower”

[an-Nisa’ 4:148]. Continue reading

His parents want to separate, and each of them wants him to be on their side

My parents are in the moment of getting divorced through court. My mothers statement in the court contains lies according to my father. As well as my father’s statement in the court contains nothing but lies according to my mother. Now my mother wants my help to tell my father to stop spreading fitnah, and my father wants my help too to say the same thing to my mother. As a son, I can’t pick a team. I know that my mother is not 100% to be blamed for her statement and neither my father. but Allah knows best. I don’t like the way they both getting divorced by neglecting the way that Allah and His Messenger SAW already prescribed in the Quran and Sunnah. I have tired many times to give them advice, showing them the truth but nothing as the result. Can you please give this son some advice on what he can do as a muslim son in this situation and to help him get rid of the feeling of being helpless.

Praise be to Allaah.

Honouring one’s parents is a duty that is enjoined on children, and disobeying them is something that is definitively forbidden. Allah, may He be blessed and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.’

Your Lord knows best what is in your inner-selves. If you are righteous, then, verily, He is Ever Most Forgiving to those who turn unto Him again and again in obedience, and in repentance”

[al-Isra’ 17:23-25]. Continue reading

Is it permissible to lie to kaafirs?

Is it permissable to lie to kaafirs?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Lying is a reprehensible and blameworthy characteristic and is not appropriate whether in earnest or in jest. There is no concession allowing it except in cases of necessity in order to achieve some definite shar‘i interest that cannot be attained by telling the truth, or to ward off serious harm that cannot be warded off by telling the truth. If it is possible to avoid lying and to tell the truth in order to obtain interests or ward off harm, then there is no concession that allows lying.

Ahmad (17) narrated that Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: O people, beware of lying, for lying is contrary to faith.

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani. See ad-Da‘eefah, 5/414

It is narrated in a saheeh report from Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqaas (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: The Muslim could develop all sorts of characteristics except treachery and lying.

And it is narrated in a saheeh report from Ibn Mas‘ood (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: Lying is never appropriate in earnest or in jest. Then he recited the words of Allah (interpretation of the meaning): “Fear Allah, and be with those who are true (in words and deeds).” [at-Tawbah 9:119]. Continue reading

Etiquette of talking to women

What is the etiquette of talking to women in general and in the following situations: buying and selling; teaching and learning; meetings to discuss work, such as explaining something specific to her? What is the ruling on lowering the gaze in these situations? When is it permissible to look at women in general? I hope that you can explain in full detail.

Praise be to Allaah.

Speaking to non-mahram women may occur because of a need or it may occur needlessly.

If it is done needlessly and only for fun and enjoyment, then there is no doubt that it is haraam and comes under the heading of the zina of the tongue and ears of which the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) spoke when he said:

“The son of Adam’s share of zina has been decreed for him, which he will inevitably get. The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the ears is listening, the zina of the tongue is speaking, the zina of the hands is touching, and the zina of the foot is walking. The heart longs and wishes, and the private part confirms that or denies it.”

Narrated by Muslim, 2657. Continue reading

Is it obligatory for him to migrate from the West when his mother and family need him?

I need some good advice. Praise be to Allah, I am in a situation where it is possible for me to go to the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia and fulfil the obligation of Hajj. I have two master’s degrees and also a bachelor’s in teaching English as a foreign language, and the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia will accept me as an English-language teacher, in sha Allah. I have got some good offers and I am about to leave. 
But my mother is ill with fourth stage cancer and my father travels a great deal for his work. I have younger brothers and a sister, but they are very young and cannot help my mother and meet her needs. My mother loves my wife and my child and she wants to be always near them, but my mother does not want to live in Saudi Arabia; she wants to complete her treatment here in the USA, and she hates “the Arab race”! I do not want to live in the USA more than that, because I fear for my religious commitment. If I stay I will work in a mixed high school which is a source of fitnah (temptation). I am very anxious because they could prevent me from praying Jumu‘ah. There is a Muslim community very near my family (Masjid at-Tawheed in Atlanta), but I do not want to live in the West any more. I also have a debt (student loan) that I have repay and I know that it will be impossible to pay it in this country, but in Saudi Arabia I may be able to save money in sha Allah.
What should I do?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

We ask Allah to make you and your family steadfast in adhering to Islam and to enable you to obey Him. The one who is able to adhere to his religion in these days – especially in the West – is like one who is holding onto a hot coal. You have to fear Allah in secret and in public, and hasten to do good. Ask Allah a great deal to make you steadfast and Allah will help you and protect you.

The Muslim has to migrate for the sake of his religion from the lands of kufr and shirk. This life is very short and no one knows when his time will be up and death will come to him.

It was narrated that Jareer ibn ‘Abdullah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “I have nothing to do with any Muslim who settled among the mushrikeen.”

Narrated by at-Tirmidhi, 1604; Abu Dawood, 2645. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi. Continue reading

She is complaining about being “ugly”.

Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. With a dark complexion, acne prone skin, misaligned teeth, and average height, I consider myself ugly. So does that mean Allah hates me? I have heard taunts about my looks for a long time. I have been through a lot of social pressure because of how I look and remain depressed most of the time. Some have even blatantly expressed their concern over my marriage. Where is my position in Islam regarding all this, since Islam encourages men to marry beautiful women? I cannot thoroughly blame others for their concern, because they are in a way quoting the Quran. But then again where is my fault? I didn’t choose to be ugly. And how does one justify the fact one is rejected socially, rejected for jobs, rejected for marriage proposals, all because one is not good looking enough? Where is Allah’s justice in this when He has created us all equally?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Know dear questioner, that all of Allah’s creation is good, but Allah may test a slave with sickness or a defect or ugliness and the like due to a wisdom He is aware of, and a benefit He wished for you to attain.

Beauty and ugliness are like sickness and health, wealth and poverty, and success and failure; Allah has distributed all provisions between His slaves through His vast wisdom, perfect mercy and abundant favour upon His slaves. Granting of any of those things or others is not an indication of Allah’s love for the one to whom He granted or provided those things. Nor is withholding any of them a sign of His displeasure towards the one being deprived. Allah says (what means):

“15.  And as for man, when his Lord tries him and [thus] is generous to him and favors him, he says, “My Lord has honored me.”

16.    But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, “My Lord has humiliated me.”

17.    No! But you do not honor the orphan

18.    And you do not encourage one another to feed the poor.

19.    And you consume inheritance, devouring [it] altogether,

20.    And you love wealth with immense love.” (al-Fajr 15-20)

Sh. As-S’adi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

“Allah the Exalted informs of the nature of man as he is, that he is ignorant and unjust, and does not know the outcomes of things. He thinks that whatever condition he is in will continue and never cease and he thinks that Allah’s honouring him and favouring him in this world is an indication of his honour and and closeness to Him. And when “He tries him and restricts his provision” such that he has only his needs with nothing extra, then this is an insult from Allah. So Allah responds to him his estimation by saying (what means) “No!” i.e. Not everyone I have bestowed favours upon in the world is honoured by Me, and not everyone whom I have restricted provisions for is lowly before Me. Rather, wealth and poverty and abundance and restrictedness are tests from Allah and trials which He puts His slaves through, to see who is grateful to him and who is patient so that He may reward them a great reward for it as compared to those who do not, so they are given a painful punishment. As well: A slaves aspirations may not go beyond himself, due to weakness in zeal, so Allah rebukes them for not being concerned about the affairs of the needy creation…” End quote from Tafsir as-S’adi (924) Continue reading